I wouldn’t try to measure the struggles of a gay man to anyone else’s but for those who don’t know how incredibly lonely it can be just by trying to work within the gay culture, I thought I would share this with you. It’s weird, the very same answers we come up with as a community are the very things that seem to perpetuate the stigmas we try to overcome and the same solutions we create to fight isolation seems to alien us from other gay men. I have spoken about this outside of a successful relationship & even inside a toxic one: when I invest in myself (translation: take myself on dates, explore interests & hang out with friends) my return is guaranteed and ten fold. Paired with the philosophy of becoming interested in others in order to BE interesting makes for a lovely life indeed. This video captures the loneliness and some of the patterned behaviors that seem to be traps for gay men. I know. I was trapped. But instead of waiting on a relationship or anything outside of oneself to find wholeness, I have practiced getting whole & find that through spirituality, open-mindedness & creativity, I feel whole. That was MY answer to the lifestyle depicted in this video. For some, it’s just natural to live a full life and do things they like outside of romance or sex but for me, having subscribed to this lifestyle which I thought was my ONLY option, I had to put myself out there and explore hobbies & the such. I like this video but I wish more videos targeted towards gay men would depict positive alternatives instead of this romance propaganda.
Hey, that’s cool. I was planning on tearing up for my midnight snack. It’s cool.